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How do I use Neurofeedback to help me remove the obstacles stopping me from reaching my goals

What does a QEEG look like of my brain if I have a hard time setting goals

How do I set my goals and what are SMART goals

How long does it take to make or break a habit?

Relationship Goals

Career Goals

How do I know if I have addiction problems?

How long does it take me to get over my divorce?

Books referenced:

Steve Covey’s 7 habits of highly effective people

Here are the key insights from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People : 1. Sharpen the saw. Don’t work yourself to death. Strive for a sustainable lifestyle that affords you time to recuperate, recharge and be effective in the long-term. 2. Be proactive. You have a natural need to wield influence on the world around you so don’t spend your time just reacting to external events and circumstances. Take charge and assume responsibility for your life. 3. Begin with an end in mind. Don’t spend your life working aimlessly, tackling whatever job is at hand. Have a vision for the future and align your actions accordingly to make it into a reality. 4. Put first things first. To prioritize your work, focus on what’s important, meaning the things that bring you closer to your vision of the future. Don’t get distracted by urgent but unimportant tasks. 5. Think win-win. When negotiating with other, don’t try to get the biggest slice of the cake, but rather find a division that is acceptable to all parties. You will still get your fair share, and build strong positive relationships in the process. 6. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. When someone presents us with a problem, we often jump right to giving a solution. This is a mistake. We should first take time to really listen to the other person and only then make recommendations. 7. Synergize. Adopt the guiding principle that in a group, the contributions of many will far exceed those of any individual. This will help you achieve goals you could never have reached on your own.

Brian Tracy’s Goals

“Goals! Summary”
If you know anything about Brian Tracy, you probably know that he speaks from experience. A high school drop-out, he earned his money by washing dishes, cars, and floors, constantly going from job to job.

Then, he became a sales rep, but, obviously, the money didn’t come easy in the beginning. Until, one day, he decided that enough was enough and he wrote down himself a simple, yet outrageous, goal: to earn $1,000 monthly in commissions only!

And, soon enough, what he wrote down – turned into reality! So much so, that one of Tracy’s books ended up among our top 15 sales books of all time!

And if you don’t believe him, just have a look at Jim Carrey talking about the very same thing on Oprah back in 1997.

Now, did we get your attention?

Just like Carrey says on the clip, it’s fairly certain that you have something in you. The only problem is you haven’t really got a hold of your potential.

Why?

Because you’re all over the place! You’re doing all different kinds of stuff, and you don’t really know how you’ll get to where you’re going or even what your MITs are!

(By the way, MIT stands for “Most Important Things”; and if you didn’t know that, you’ve probably haven’t read this summary; you should.)

So, start focusing! Try to understand what you really want out of life and, in the case of no financial obstacles, what your ideal job would be.

Now that you got that figured out, you need to take control of the situation. And to do that, you need to stop thinking about the past and start living in the present. And, of course, start preparing yourself for a grander future.

How?

Start fantasizing. Imagination is more important than knowledge. And the guy who said that – well, let’s just say that he knew more things about most things than quite about everybody who ever lived. So, if you don’t believe Tracy, you got to believe him.

Your imagination will take you places where you’ve never been before. It will give you the right perspective, and the right amount of courage and motivation.

Next on the agenda: write it down. And start being much more decisive once you do.

Because the process says so. In other words, you’ve come this far by realizing what’s wrong with your life and how you can change it.

If you don’t – your life will always stay in that dreadful status quo you’re living right now!

Key Lessons from “Goals!”
1. Six Questions to Uncovering Your Potential
2. Six Questions to Rethink Your Present
3. Four Questions to Set Your Future Goals

Six Questions to Uncovering Your Potential
If you want to truly uncover your potential, you’ve got to start asking yourself some questions. Here are six which can really help you:

1. What do you really want out of life?
2. Which are the activities that make you happy?
3. What’s the one thing you would change about your life?
4. Are you a positive or a negative person?
5. Which things are you prepared to sacrifice to achieve your goals?
6. What do you think is the first step you should take right now?

Six Questions to Rethink Your Present
All better futures start with a present plan. Start making yours once you get to the bottom of these six questions:

1. Which are your most important values?
2. What do other people think about you?
3. On which values you base your relationships and your finances?
4. What would you like to be if there were no obstacles?
5. Write yourself a eulogy: is there anything wrong with it? (Change it!)
6. Which of the things you’re doing is inconsistent with your values? (Change it!)

Four Questions to Set Your Future Goals
You should start setting your goals now. Here are four questions to help you with that:

1. What would you do if you learned you would die six months from now?
2. If you suddenly won a million dollars – what’s the first thing you’d do?
3. What would you do if you had no fear of doing it?
4. What do you enjoy doing most?

Lisa Feldmen Barrett’s How to harness brain science for a better life

A conversation with Lisa Feldman Barrett, author of Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain
Q: Why do I have a brain?

A: Brain’s didn’t evolve so you can think, feel or see. They evolved to control bodies. Everything your brain does – think, feel, see, hear, etc. — it does in the service of controlling your body. This is your brain’s most important job. Understanding this illuminates mysteries like: How are your mind and body linked? How does chronic stress seep under the skin and make you sick? Why are physical illnesses like heart disease and Parkinson’s disease so similar to mental illnesses like depression? And why there is a growing epidemic of depression and anxiety around the world?

Q: How does your brain work?

A: During much of the last century, scientists thought your brain worked sort of like a muscle – the world stimulates it, and it reacts. The stimulation would come from the outside world in the form of sights, sounds, smells, and other sense data. But scientists have learned that brain’s billions of neurons are continuously in conversation, guessing what might happen nextand preparing your body in advance to deal with it. It’s issuing predictionsthat launch what you do and see and feel, but it happens so quickly that you feel like you’re reacting!

Here’s one way to think about it: From the moment you are born until the moment that you die, your brain is locked inside a dark, silent box called your skull. It continuously receives scraps of data from the outside world, like waves of light (from your eyes), chemicals (through your nose and on your tongue), and changes in air pressure (in your ears). Your brain has to use these scraps of information to figure out how to keep your body alive and well Is that CRASH outside caused by a racoon in your trash can, someone dropping a box on the ground, or a car bumping into another car outside your home? Is that tightness in your chest a sore muscle from lifting something heavy, a feeling of anxiety, or a sign that you might be having heart trouble? In every moment, it must figure out what caused the current barrage of sense data and what to do about it, using your memories of past experiences. So your brain isn’t reactive, it’s predictive.

Q: I’ve heard that the human brain has an ancient area, called the “lizard brain,” that can hijack the rational part of the brain (the neocortex) and cause me to say & do things that are ill-advised. Is this true?

A: No. The only animal that has a lizard brain is a lizard. The so-called lizard brain in humans is a folk tale that was popularized in the 1970s, though its roots stretch back to Plato in Ancient Greece. Scientists in the early and mid-1900s examined a bunch of animal brains and determined that the human brain had parts that other mammal and reptile brains don’t, crafting the narrative of a layered brain. Supposedly, the brain’s core contains reptilian parts that give us instincts, wrapped in newer mammalian parts that give us emotions, wrapped in human parts that give us rationality. This story, called the triune brain, says the human brain evolved in layers like a birthday cake, where the topmost layer, the icing, handles rationality.

Since the 1970s, however, scientists have been able to compare brain cells by their genetic markers, and it turns out that mice, rats, dogs, cats, horses, and every other mammalian species studied so far (and possibly the brains of fish, lizards, and birds, too ) follow the same manufacturing plan. Basically, you have the same brain plan as a bloodsucking lamprey.